No matter what type of couple you are and what stage you are in your relationship, it’s always a good idea to set some goals. It will help you keep your romance constantly blossoming. It doesn’t matter if you’re still at the early honeymoon stage of utter bliss or have been together for more years than you can remember. Everyone wants their love to keep growing and going from strength to strength.
You might have heard the term ‘couple goals’ being thrown around a few times between friends and on social media, but what exactly are they?
Couple, or relationship, goals are values, standards, or guidelines on how to give and receive love, and keep your relationship a happy one. They could be both a road map, and a final destination in a relationship.
For most of us, the ultimate relationship goal is to be with someone who genuinely cares for you and loves you more than you thought humanly possible.
Why Your Relationship Goals Need to Align
We all have our own goals and visions of what we want our life to look like. However, once you’re in a serious and commited relationship – you need to make sure that your goals and visions of the future align. In the ver least, they should not stand in the way of the other partner’s goals.
That is why it is so important to talk all about how you envision your life and your relationship. If you find that your biggest couple goals are not in line with each other, it will be very difficult to make your relationship work in the long run. And on the contrary, finding relationship goals you both share will make you a much stronger couple. After all, as Antoine de Saint-Exupery once said: “Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.”
So, we’ve compiled some couple goals you may not have thought of, but should definitely consider setting!
Cute Couple Goals
Relationship goals can be both serious objectives that you want to achieve as a couple, or they can be more cutesy and adorable aims you’d like your relationship to be built on.
Here are some of the more heart-warming and sweeter sounding cute couple goals that can take your connection and romance to new (much cuter) heights.
Explore the world together
This is probably the ultimate relationship goal when it comes to being with that special someone. Nothing beats travelling to new places and making unforgettable memories with your other half. Exploring new cultures and cities, visiting historical landmarks, and dining on the finest cuisine.
Sure, this is all great to take in and discover as a solo wonderer, but cherishing it with someone you love is so much more special. It’s also a great way to get to know your partner better. Travels are often filled with adventures and situations that aren’t typical to your normal daily life. So, going through them together might just show you a different side of your partner.
Kiss and make up
This is a vital relationship goal, and one you should turn into a couple habit – “to forgive and forget”. It’s so easy to fall into silly and minor mistakes with your loved one. This can sometimes leave your significant other feeling frustrated and annoyed.
A very cute couple goal is to build a relationship in a way where you are open to hugging and kissing even when you’re still a bit mad at each other. This will be a good segway into quickly making up and putting all tension behind you both.
This does not mean ignoring your problems and letting a kiss deter you from an important conversation that needs to be had. It does, however mean, showing your partner you still care about the relationship even in the harder times.
Encourage each other’s personal growth
It’s easy to forget that there are two separate individuals in a relationship. Especially since you are constantly sharing everything from time, space, finances, and hobbies. It’s easy to begin feeling like one entity. But it’s important to remember that you are two separate people that need your own personal growth, as well as growing together in the relationship.
Giving your partner space and respect to do that is a very necessary and cute relationship goal. This shows you want the absolute best for each other and want one another to succeed as individuals, as well as a couple. You should also aim to challenge and encourage one another to keep growing.
Doing absolutely nothing together
As strange as it sounds, one of your relationship goals could be to allow yourself to relax and not do anything, at least every once in a while. After all, nothing beats a lazy Sunday afternoon than some good old Netflix.
Dim the lights and shut off the outside world by watching a movie or binge-watching a series together. This creates a little bubble of romance between you both. You will laugh and cry together whilst cuddling and enjoying each other’s simple presence. The best part about this cute couple goal is that you can be as comfortable as you want (sweats, hair up, no make up kind of vibe) and it is a very cheap date night for you both to enjoy.
Gay and Lesbian Couple Goals
The above relationship goals can be applied to any couple as can the ones we’re going to list now. However, these ones are concentrated a bit more towards same-sex relationships and the specific gay and lesbian couple goals they can follow.
Talk more openly about sex
Sex is an important topic for all couples. Being able to speak openly about sexual desires, needs, and fantasies is a sign of a completely open and safe relationship. And let’s face it, that’s probably an important goal for most couples.
It’s vital not to hold back when talking about sex as you may end up holding feelings of bitterness and resentment towards your partner. These feelings can build up into something you may later regret. This is especially important to talk about if you’re new to the LGBTQ community and haven’t had sexual relations with someone of the same sex before.
Learn how to navigate conflict better
The way in which you deal with conflict resolution is usually developed quite early on in your life. How was conflict discussed in your family growing up, for example. Are you used to resolving issues head-on or just sweeping them under the rug?
Many individuals in the LGBTQ community have become quite good at hiding themselves and learning how to virtually disappear. Losing yourself when dealing with conflict can be tough as you end up not knowing what you want. So, make sure to discuss this with your partner if you feel it is a struggle you are facing.
Everyone wants to be ‘couple goals’ and have a picture-perfect relationship. But remember to set realistic goals that you and your partner can meet without creating an idealistic image in your mind that neither of you can turn into reality. Every relationship is different and unique in its own special way – the sooner you realise that the sooner you can set the best goals for you both.
Kay is in her 50′s, is divorced with grown sons, and has been back in the dating game for 5 years. She’s met a surprising assortment of men from online dating sites, many of whom were very nice but just not right for her. Some remain friends. She now refuses to meet anyone at Starbucks